There are so many people who are only too happy to give you advice, warnings and an entire list of To Dos but you might be wondering if everything they say is necessary or even relevant. There are a lot of myths circling the wedding atmosphere, and here are a few of them completely debunked.
Myth #1: It’s Your Day
Yes you are getting married, and yes you can make your wedding be exactly how you want it to be but keep some perspective: if your friends and family have supported you and your partner’s journey then you might want to show them some appreciation. Further if your family, or fiancé’s family, is helping with some of the cost towards the wedding you may want to be prepared for some kind of compromise.
Myth #2: You will cry when you find ‘The Dress”
You might cry, you might not. There isn’t a right or wrong reaction to have when you find your dress. Not every bride will experience each aspect of the wedding process in their own way, so if someone tells that the dress isn’t right until it brings tears to your eyes. Forget it: if it feels like it’s the right dress and you can imagine yourself saying “I Do” in the dress then it is the right one for you.
Myth #3: You should be engaged a year
There isn’t a written rule that you need to be engaged a certain amount of time before you can get married. If you are engaged for 6 months before you get married then that’s great; if you are engaged for 5 years then that’s fantastic, too. There isn’t a right or wrong amount of time, so whatever timeline works for you and your fiancé go for it.
Myth #4: You need to spend a certain amount on a wedding
Lots of people will have opinions about how much a good wedding “should” cost but that doesn’t mean it’s what you should spend. What can you afford? How much do you want to spend? Maybe you have the budget to spend a lot on your wedding and you want to throw a huge party for your friends and family, or maybe you only want to have a small, intimate gathering and that’s ok too. There isn’t a right or wrong amount to spend on your wedding: think about what you can realistically afford, and what you actually want to spend – there’s your budget.
Myth #5: You need to have this tradition, that tradition, and this other tradition or else it’s not really a wedding
You know what makes a wedding, a wedding? Two people get married. That’s it. If you don’t want to walk down the aisle then don’t, and if you don’t feel comfortable doing the garter toss then don’t. Whatever you want to do, do it. A wedding is a wedding because two people get married.
Myth #6: You will look your most beautiful on that day
There’s a whole lot of pressure to look a certain way on this day, and there’s no argument that brides look amazing on their wedding day but it isn’t the only day you’ll look absolutely stunning in your life. You will still be gorgeous after you get married and before that day, too. Don’t buy into everyone else’s criticism or cave to the pressure: it’s your day and you should look exactly how you want to.
Getting married is a really exciting and sometimes challenging part of your life, but it can quickly become a nightmare with everyone’s expectations and pressure. Your wedding should be a reflection of who you and your fiancé are, make it a day to celebrate your love with your friends and family so make sure you truly enjoy it and have it the way you want it to be.